The Trauma Teacher

Why You Feel So Anxious After Narcissistic Abuse

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In this episode of Awake But Not Free, we’re diving deep into one of the most frustrating parts of post-trauma recovery — when you’ve done everything right and you still feel anxious, tense, or stuck. You’ve left the chaos of your narcissistic relationship, survived the gaslighting and emotional confusion, and are doing the therapy, reading the books, and learning the tools… yet somehow, you still don’t feel free. I know that feeling — because I’ve lived it. And in this episode, I’m going to help you understand why your nervous system is still on high alert, what Jung and Adler can teach us about this cycle, and how to finally begin to experience peace, not just think about it.
We’ll talk about:
✨ Why your nervous system became addicted to control and prediction
✨ How anxiety is actually your body’s way of trying to keep you safe
✨ What Jung meant by “what we don’t integrate, we live out unconsciously” ✨ How Adler’s idea of significance explains why peace feels uncomfortable ✨ Three practical steps to start retraining your body for calm and safety
✨ Why boredom after chaos isn’t failure — it’s healing
✨ And how to use the courage that helped you survive to finally set yourself free _________________________________________________________________Ready to go Deeper? *Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/
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Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher _________________________________________________________________Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
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Awake But Not Free | Why Trauma Knowledge Didn’t Set You Free

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You are not unhealed — you are #unclaimed. Insight woke you up. Now it’s time to #become.
In this series, I’m teaching the missing stage in women’s healing — the transition from trauma-awareness to embodied identity and courageous living.
This is the next era of healing.
Topics in this episode:
- Why trauma information didn’t give you freedom
- The Jung → Adler bridge
- Healing vs identity creation
- Why high-capacity women feel stuck
- The “Void” after awakening
- Courage as the second half of healing ________________________________________________________________Ready to go Deeper?
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* Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher ________________________________________________________________Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
Ready to go Deeper? *Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/ *Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/ *Apply for The Becoming Intensive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EUa69NL3f4jodIg6J_javkNdW9qEYoRl/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=100729952587821838385&rtpof=true&sd=true *Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/ Not sure which one to pick? Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher__________________________________________________________________________________ Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

"How to Finally Feel FREE after Narcissistic Abuse

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Why is it so hard to leave a #toxicrelationship? Begin your #healingjourney with #emotionalhealing, and start understanding #emotional abuse. Recognize the impact of #cptsd in your #relationships and prioritize #traumahealing
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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
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The Reclamation: The Step Every Smart Woman Misses After Narcissistic Abuse

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You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You understand narcissistic abuse, trauma, CPTSD, boundaries, and self-worth. But somehow, you still feel stuck — aware but disconnected.
This episode reveals why: Because awareness isn’t the same as embodiment.
Welcome to Phase 4: The Reclamation — the most overlooked, most transformative step in the healing journey after narcissistic abuse. This is where all the insight and awareness you’ve gathered finally move from your head into your body. This is where you stop knowing who you are and start living as her.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
- Why smart, high-functioning women and even therapists get stuck here
- How dissociation hides the missing step between awakening and embodiment
- What it means to rebuild self-trust at the nervous-system level
- How to tell the difference between vacancy (emotional numbness) and peace (regulated safety)
- How to set boundaries that expand you instead of just protect you
- Why awareness without action keeps you repeating old patterns in prettier packaging
- Practical ways to reconnect with your intuition and practice embodied truth daily
 
This episode is for you if:
- You understand everything about narcissistic abuse, but still feel disconnected from your body or voice
- You’ve been “doing the work” but can’t figure out why you’re still anxious, lonely, or unfulfilled
- You’re a therapist, healer, or high-capacity woman who supports everyone else but feels empty yourself
- You’re ready to stop talking about healing and start living it
 
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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
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The Awakening: Phase 3 of Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

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You’re not “going back to who you were.” You’re meeting yourself for the first time. After years of chaos (Phase 1: The Shattering) and the numb quiet of (Phase 2: The Void), Phase 3 is where small sparks return—preferences, opinions, sensations—and your voice begins to form. It’s tender, thrilling, and scary… and totally normal.
In this episode, I’ll help you understand why guilt shows up when you speak, how to tell vacancy from true peace, and what it looks like to set boundaries without collapsing into people-pleasing or overcorrecting into armor.
What you’ll learn
Why extreme guilt appears when you first use your voice (it’s a nervous-system pattern, not a personality flaw)
The shift from fawning → authenticity, and how to ride the waves without backsliding
Vacancy vs. Peace: how to tell “disconnected calm” from grounded presence in your body
Real stories of awakening: the first “no,” reciprocal friendships, and healthy partners who can hold your truth
The hidden trap of overcompensation (harsh, guarded, controlling) and how to find the courageous middle
Simple practices to build self-trust:
micro-boundaries, body tracking, and post-conversation regulation
Try these practices from the episode
1. Pause before you answer — check your body for a real yes/no
2. Track sensations — truth often feels tense and relieving at once
3. Practice micro-boundaries — “I’ll think about it,” “Not this time”
4. Move your body after hard moments — walk, stretch, shake to discharge energy ______________________________________________________
Start the series here Phase 1: The Shattering: https://youtu.be/wB9kYOlwUEI?si=Oisz4aljbujgHr94
Phase 2: The Void: https://youtu.be/JZhDVkZzrE4?si=C6L-JzHkN-2hFDeu
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Chapters 00:00 Cold open – “I’m still here”
01:05 What Awakening is (and isn’t)
05:18 Why guilt shows up when you speak 10:42 Fawning → Authenticity (nervous-system lens)
14:55 Vacancy vs Peace (how to tell the difference)
19:10 Overcompensation story (armor ≠ empowerment)
24:30 4 practices to build self-trust
28:30 Closing + what’s next _____________________________________________________________ Ready to go Deeper?
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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
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The VOID: Phase 2 of Reclaiming You after Narcissistic Abuse

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Exploring the complexities of being in a relationship with **narcissistic personality disorder, this video provides essential relationship advice for those navigating its challenges once it has finally ended. Learn about emotional abuse and how to begin emotional abuse recovery within toxic relationship. Understanding narcissism is the first step toward healthier relationships.🌟✨
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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
Ready to go Deeper? *Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/ *Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/ *Apply for The Becoming Intensive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EUa69NL3f4jodIg6J_javkNdW9qEYoRl/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=100729952587821838385&rtpof=true&sd=true *Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/ Not sure which one to pick? Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher__________________________________________________________________________________ Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

The Shattering: Phase 1 of Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

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Episode two of the series focuses on the shattering, the first phase of healing from narcissistic abuse. This video offers valuable relationship advice as you navigate the challenges of emotional abuse recovery. It's time to start healing from divorce and understanding the complexities of narcissism and toxic relationships.🌟✨
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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.
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Reclaiming YOU Series. Ep 1: 5 phases to healing after narcissistic abuse

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In this eye-opening video, we begin the journey of self healing after experiencing narcissism and toxic relationships. Discover valuable relationship advice that will guide you through emotional abuse recovery and personal growth. It's time to reclaim your identity and embrace life after abuse! 🌟✨
I created this series because I’ve lived it.
After 20 years in a marriage that gas-lit me, took advantage of me, and used me for everything good I had to offer, I had to completely rebuild my identity, my safety, and my life.
Now I’m here to show you how to do the same — to step out of performative living, where people-pleasing and self-abandonment thrive, and into *Courageous Living*, where your voice leads, your choices align with your values, and your life finally belongs to you. 👉 **Hit SUBSCRIBE** so you’ll be notified as soon as the next episode drops in this powerful series.
🎯 **Comment below:** What phase do you think you’re in right now? What questions do you want me to cover in the upcoming episodes?
You’re not crazy.
You’re not broken.
You were conditioned — and now, you’re coming home to yourself. ______________________________________________________________ Ready to go Deeper?
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Ready to go Deeper? *Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/ *Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/ *Apply for The Becoming Intensive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EUa69NL3f4jodIg6J_javkNdW9qEYoRl/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=100729952587821838385&rtpof=true&sd=true *Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/ Not sure which one to pick? Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher__________________________________________________________________________________ Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

The One Shift That Will Change Your Life Forever

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Discover a powerful concept to shift your mindset and unlock inner peace. This video offers inspiration and actionable steps for personal growth, drawing from psychology to enhance self improvement and ignite your motivation.
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Ready to go Deeper? *Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/ *Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/ *Apply for The Becoming Intensive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EUa69NL3f4jodIg6J_javkNdW9qEYoRl/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=100729952587821838385&rtpof=true&sd=true *Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/ Not sure which one to pick? Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher__________________________________________________________________________________ Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

Why Saying Yes to Everyone Makes You Lonelier

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You’ve been taught that saying *yes* keeps people close. That giving more means loving more. But here’s the truth: over-giving isn’t love—it’s self-abandonment. And instead of creating closeness, it destroys intimacy.
In this episode, Janice Holland calls out the myth that constant giving is virtue. You’ll discover why saying yes all the time is actually manipulation, how “performance service” masquerades as selflessness, and why true intimacy only comes from boundaries.
⚡ Inside this episode:
- The hidden manipulation behind saying yes.
- The real cost of over-giving: resentment, loneliness, and illness.
- How faith and values get misused to justify self-abandonment.
- The difference between authentic service and performance service.
- Why boundaries aren’t walls—they’re the gateway to connection.
- One simple boundary you can start practicing today.
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Ready to go Deeper? *Join the Courageous Living Digital Studio: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/the-courageous-living-no-bs-membership/ *Join the 60 Day Reset Experience: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/cl-group-transformation/ *Apply for The Becoming Intensive: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1EUa69NL3f4jodIg6J_javkNdW9qEYoRl/edit?usp=sharing&ouid=100729952587821838385&rtpof=true&sd=true *Work with me 1:1: https://janiceholland.thrivecart.com/thecourageouslivingjourney/ Not sure which one to pick? Take the quiz: https://form.typeform.com/to/YFxykSjU Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher__________________________________________________________________________________ Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.